I actually had something else in mind to write about this morning, but I can’t seem to shake this image, and the conversation that I read surrounding it yesterday.
I’ll be honest with you. This is really hard for me to look at for very long, as all I can think is “his face…his beautiful face!” On top of that, it just makes me feel sad. Piercing is one thing, but the gauging is something I cannot get my brain around. Yesteryear’s dying your hair bright blue in the name of self-expression seems pretty tame by comparison. But when this came through my newsfeed on Facebook yesterday, and a friend whom I’ve never met, but whose work and viewpoint I admire, had posted a comment to it, I was curious.
When I clicked on the picture, I realized that it had with it a caption that read “Describe this picture in one word.” Down the many, MANY comments I read…
Freak
Sick
Mutilated
Insane
Ridiculous
Duranged
Pervert
This saddened me so. There were hundreds, if not thousands, of these types of comments on that photo.
I don’t understand why he’s decided to express himself this way, but I do think, deep down, that a lot of those who go to the extreme to change their appearance are trying to cover some pretty extensive pain. They don’t like who they see when they look in the mirror, so they change it, creating a mask in the process. But really, I have to ask…who among us doesn’t don a mask from time-to-time? Which of us doesn’t hide our pain with a manufactured smile, or a fake story to make people think our lives are perfect? His mask is extreme, granted, but is it really any different from our own? How do we even have a leg to stand on in judgment?
I kept scrolling down all the negativity and scathing one-word indictments, until I found my friend’s…
Beloved
Yes. YES.
My Jesus loves that boy. LOVES him, that young man who is someone’s son, who played soccer, skipped rocks, and popped wheelies on his bike, the sun glistening off his hair on a hot summer day. My Jesus thinks enough of him that He would’ve climbed up on that cross to save him, had he been the only one on the planet. Just like He would’ve done for you…for me. Even if he looked just like he looks now.
Even then.
You know, maybe that wasn’t my friend’s comment at all. Maybe if I went back and looked, it would have Jesus’ name and picture by it, because it’s exactly what He would say. And if that’s what He thinks, who are we to think any differently?
“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.” Matthew 7:1-5 MSG
“Christ arrives right on time to make this happen. He didn’t, and doesn’t, wait for us to get ready. He presented himself for this sacrificial death when we were far too weak and rebellious to do anything to get ourselves ready. And even if we hadn’t been so weak, we wouldn’t have known what to do anyway. We can understand someone dying for a person worth dying for, and we can understand how someone good and noble could inspire us to selfless sacrifice. But God put his love on the line for us by offering his Son in sacrificial death while we were of no use whatever to him.” Romans 5:6-8 MSG
“See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are!” 1 John 3:1 NLT
i thought the same thing when the pictures surface last week of those beautiful boys who are now known as the marathon bombers … and when i saw this post on facebook i thought of all the reasons he had hurt himself in the name of pain… beloved indeed…<3
This is truly, truly a heart wrenching, well written post that deserves a BIG AMEN!!!! God’s love is truly powerful, if only we would learn to see ourselves as God sees us and not as the world sees us.
I looked at this picture and at first thought the same thing…why?? Is it just an expression of his own individuality? No, because he was different like God made him before this. I don’t know why he did this but you might be right. He has lots of pain. Mike has a nose piecing, and under his lip. Recently he colored his hair blue and green!
He is my son and I love him no matter what, unconditionally even if his views are very different from mine. He is God’s child. Well said Melinda.
Melinda, sad was the word I posted. I wondered what had happened to him as a child that made him feel so ugly, unloved and. Unwanted. Whether is came from parents who had been hurt themselves and passed that down, or just a kid rejected by his peers for some reason that he rebelled this hard. Obviously, no one ever really taught him about Jesus’ love for each of us. We should all stop and think if we have taken the time to be kind to others today? Have we used an opportunity to bring Christ’s love to a child, to a stranger, to friend who is hurting? This is our job as Christians and taking a look at the picture I would we all receive a pretty low grade. This young man would not want to hide his face if he knew the inner joy of God’s love!